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A blueprint to get out of lust

(read this when you’re ready to fight)

You’re alone.

Just another ordinary moment.

Then it happens.

A flash, a thought, an image. It’s small, you say. Harmless. So you entertain it… just for a second.

That second is all that’s needed.

Here’s what many people miss: lust does not begin in the body. It begins as a thought.

The devil cannot force you to lust. He has no direct power over your will. So instead, he whispers in your ear.

Because he needs one thing:

your consent.

Every fall into lust follows the same path. The thought comes first. Always.

The tactic of the devil is to subtly plant those seeds, little by little. Every time, he comes back with another thought, and it grows stronger, clearer, into a full image, and then a full movie.

By that point your body is involved. The thought became chemistry, and your will weakens. Suddenly you’re not choosing as freely, you’re reacting.

The only place to stop it easily is at the beginning. At the thought.

But here is what nobody tells you about why this is so hard.

The game doesn’t begin at the level of the body.

You are not just a body trying to resist bad images. You are body and soul. Not a soul trapped in a body, but the union of both. What happens in the soul moves the body just as much as the body shapes the soul.

In Catholic teaching, the soul has three faculties:

  1. Intellect - the capacity to know or to reason about something. This is where thoughts originate.

  2. Will - the capacity to choose. Your consent to a thought is where sin happens.

  3. Memory - this has two dimensions.

    The first is biological: the brain stores sensory images, experiences, and patterns the intellect draws from. This is the hard drive. It’s why pornography is so destructive: it stocks the hard drive with images the intellect will keep retrieving involuntarily

    The second dimension is the soul’s: the grasping of understood truth. It’s your grasp of what love means, what dignity is, what God is. These are not stored in neurons. They are held by the intellect itself.

These three faculties are the soul, not the body. They work with the brain, but are not the brain.

Here is how you know.

The brain is material; it can only process what has physical form. A hard drive can store the word "justice" but has no idea what justice means. A camera with infinite storage still doesn't know what it photographed. Matter stores, but matter cannot understand. Therefore what grasps these things must itself be immaterial.

Your intellect does something your brain cannot do: it grasps things that have no physical form whatsoever: the meaning of justice, infinity, truth, God.

The leap from matter to meaning is not biological.

Thoughts are not just neurons firing.

Thoughts are also processed in the soul, the spiritual realm.

And here’s why that matters for everything that follows.

Because the soul is spiritual, it is not limited to the material world. It is capable of touching what is beyond matter entirely. Which means, it is capable of being united to God.

This is the soul’s purpose: to reorient your whole person (body included) toward heaven.

This is also why scripture uses spirit and soul interchangeably. They point to the same reality: the part of you that is infinite in capacity and was made to unite you with God.

And it’s why the devil targets the soul first. At the thought.

He doesn’t come for your body.

He comes for your soul.

Because if he can get the soul, the body follows. If your soul leans toward the intrusive thought, your body will act on it.

"Everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:28). This is where the sin is committed long before the body acts on it.

Christ was not interested in the surface. He goes straight to the heart (your intentions, your soul, the place where the real decision is made.

But here is the deeper question few ask:

What’s up with your heart? Why does it keep wanting more in the first place?

Not just more lust. More of everything. More pleasure, more comfort, more sensation, more love, more meaning… An appetite that never fully ceases.

Here is the answer:

Your soul was made for the infinite. It can only be filled by Him! [more here].

And you’ve experienced it your whole life without having words to express it!

No amount of pleasure will ever fulfill you because pleasure is finite and your soul is not. If you were purely material (only a body), a material satisfaction would be enough. If lust could fill you, a set amount would suffice. You’d stop. You’d be done.

BUT… you keep going back :/

That’s your soul starving. To fill it, you try to grab at anything that looks like nourishment. Starvation reaches for any junk food.

So how do you get out?

Here’s the framework:

  1. Catch the thoughts captive.

    This is the entrance to the castle. This is where Satan attacks. This is where you meet for battle. Lust always begins as a thought. Train yourself to recognize it the moment it appears. Just notice. The battle is won or lost in the first three seconds. Count how many times today you catch it late. That number will shrink.

  2. Interrupt the pattern.

    Name it immediately. Always call it a lie of the enemy. Call it infidelity. Because that’s what it is, it begins at the level of the thought (Matthew 5:28). Flee from the occasion of sin; flee from the stimulus, the environment, the sensation. The moment you start defending the thought as “a little self-love” (read this), you have already begun to lose.

    • Do an exorcism over yourself: “In the name of Jesus, I rebuke, renounce, and revoke all evil spirits of lust; pornography, masturbation, impurity, fantasy; and I send you to the foot of the cross for Jesus to dispose of you.”

    • Then ask Our Lady to cleanse your memory from every impure image and your heart from every impure attachment.
      She has never refused that request.

      YOU SHALL NOT PASS (The Lord of The Rings)

  3. Replace the thought.

    Don’t just cast it out. Fill the new void. Jesus warned us: an empty house doesn't stay empty for long (Matthew 12:43-45). Fill it before something worse fills it.

    • Romans 12:21 doesn’t say resist evil, it says overcome evil with good. Put your mind back on spiritual things that lift your soul upward. Then the body will follow.

    • Darkness cannot prevail against light. Darkness is not a force. It is an absence. Light doesn't fight darkness. It simply enters, and darkness has no say against it. Prepare things to feed your soul with when temptation happens, things that are true, good, and beautiful.

  4. Follow up with the body.

    Break your love of comfort. Shock your body. Do violence and cleanse your temple (John 2:14-16). Your body and soul move together.

    • An underrated weapon: go serve someone in your family. Right now. Get busy giving yourself. Lust moves you inward, love brings you out of yourself. You cannot fully do both at once.

      Cleansing of the temple (The Chosen)

  5. Feed the soul before the attack comes again.

    This, everyone skips. It is also why everyone keeps losing. You cannot fight on an empty stomach. Feed your soul with what it was made for, or it starves. Feed it continuously and you’ll lose appetite for junk food.

    • Prayer is not a technique. Prayer is becoming a longing for God. Become prayer. This is the state of saints in heaven. Walk continuously in the spirit, not in the way of the flesh (Galatians 5:16).

    • Receive the sacraments of Reconciliation and the Eucharist very regularly to carry on your journey.

    Take your daily bread.
    "One small bite is enough to fill the stomach of a grown man."

The enemy’s strategy:

Plant Bloom enslave

The strategy of the saint:

Reject Replace Liturgize

(transform the moment into communion with God)

If you use every temptation as a prompt to turn towards God instead of sin, the devil would unwillingly become your trainer towards holiness!

Every influence he sends becomes a bell calling you to prayer. Every attack trains you to stand on guard. Every ambush becomes an occasion of deeper union with God.

This is spiritual Aikido. Turn his tactics against him.

Let God make good from the bad.

And remember, none of this works by your own strength.

Your ability to reject these suggestions come entirely from the power of Christ. By yourself, you can do no good (John 15:5). If your soul is not reoriented towards Him, your body alone has no power over evil (Romans 7:18).

Oh, and get a grandma to pray for you.

Take care.