The test most men fail
And why it reveals their view of women.
I once heard of a couple on honeymoon.
They arrived to their hotel room, and on their bed, white towels were folded into heart-shaped swans. Rose petals were delicately placed everywhere. It was a romantic setting.
The bride reacted affectionately and held her man’s arm.
His reaction?
He back-slapped the swans, destroyed the mood, and laughed it off!
Question: how do women avoid this kind of man?
Answer: By offering him a flower!
You may find it odd to offer a flower to a man you’re interested in. And for many men, receiving a flower feels effeminate! But his reaction reveals something important.
Four women I know have done this. Not to pursue him or reverse roles. But as a gentle test: “here”, a fragile thing she picked from the grass. An invitation… an invitation to approach her garden rightly.
These four women wanted an answer: how does he receive beauty he cannot use?
Because a flower has no utility.
It is beautiful yet delicate, like you. It awakens wonder yet requires gentle protection.
In our culture, beauty is dangled as a bait for lust. But a flower teaches the opposite. It inspires the proper attitude toward beauty.
Take the rose, for example. It has thorns. If you grab it carelessly you’ll be pricked; wounded. It is meant to be received as a gift, not seized. That is why the flower is a fitting image for a woman’s dignity.
When a man sees a woman not as a flower but as an outlet for pleasure, he takes her for self-gratification, reducing her to a tool of utility. She becomes an object in his eyes. And she feels it.
This is the inversion of love. Instead of offering himself for her good, he sacrifices her for his own pleasure. He twists love into use. That’s lust.
A man who is uncomfortable with this truth will laugh at the face of love and "back-slap” the flower.
So the flower teaches a deeper pattern:
- Beauty is meant to be received.
- Love, not use, is the proper response to beauty.
- Grasping destroys both.
To the men being tested: a flower is a small thing. But it reveals a lot about how you love.
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